A word of caution to parents with toddler who’re thinking of adopting a kitten.

One thing for sure, taking care of a kitten feels a lot more like taking care of a new toddler. It has been nearly three month with few ups and down, here and there, and with God’s grace, Koko is still here with the family, thriving and loved from all – even from my husband who doesn’t like cats and furry animal alike.

I have come to realize a few things, that i will not know of before. And so, here’s a word of caution to parents with toddler whenever you’re thinking of having one (kitten/puppy).

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  1. Its a lot of hard work – integrating a small pet safely into the family. Seriously, if you’re not up for it, don’t do it. The kitten/puppy deserved as much love as you would give to your baby.
  2. They have as much energy as your little one. (i’m not kidding .. both Adam and Koko loves jumping around and running so much, i myself wonder where do they get all that energy storing up)
  3. They lurvved your attention and probably gonna follow you around the house if you let them. Mine even cry to let me know she wants to be out and about whenever she noticed me. Tough luck on that one resisting her sorry meow.
  4. Because they’re still small and new to the area, they gonna need to be watch a lot, just like how you would to a toddler who just learned how to walk. They get curious of all things, putting everything into their mouth (this can make them choke/ eating something dangerous, so keep an eye on it. )
  5. Keep a vet’s number handy ( or at least the location of vet clinic and their operational hours) especially if you move a lot and bringing them with you. Accidents can happen (with highly energetic kid around) and i think you will like to have some expert opinion handy should anything goes wrong somewhere.
  6. They gonna love interrupting you while you’re working on your laptop, anytime of the day. So, make sure do lots of back up or lock the door if you’re doing important reports.

All in all, it’s a wonderful addition to the family, and i am beyond happy that Adam and Koko took to each other so well. Take care of your family and be safe wherever you are.

 

Kids and pets. Nightmare or is it blessing in disguise?

One thing for sure, it never cross my mind that there’ll come a time where our little home is graced by not one but few pets at the same time. Granted, it’s actually one little furry animal (a grey local cat we call Koko) and two classes of fish (goldfish and tiger fish to be exact) in two cozy aquarium. Taking care of the fishes is one little hobby of my dear husband whereas the cat — that’s all Adam’s doing. The last time my cat died (it was my family’s, long before i get married), it crushed our heart so much that my parents decided enough is enough. No more cats. And lo and behold! Who would have thought that their first grandson a.k.a Adam takes after them and love cats so much that he’s keep on asking for cat to be his own. It takes a solid month of mental preparation before we finally decided to adopt Koko into our humble home, and its a decision that i have never regretted. Bless her little paws and snuggly fur.

Once in a while, comes a thought — does bringing home pets (furry alike or not) a nightmare or is it blessing in disguise? Particularly if there is kids/ toddler at home. Well, thats depends. Lets dive in to the many benefits of taking care of pets to the kids shall we? Firstly, the obvious — feeding and caring for a pet encourages responsibility. Its a good practice to involve your little one (step by step and under direct observation of course) in taking care of the pet.

This is also the best time for parent to look for social red flag with your children (i.e him/her being abusive/consistently cruel with animal). This may point to a few conditions that have to be investigated, look in depth and treated by professional if found to be true; condition like conduct disorder, psychopathy, or indication of the child being abused at home or bullied at school. This can be illicit in children as young as 5 or 6 year old.

Next, children with pets display improved impulse control, social skills and self-esteem. Kids with pets also gets outside/ play more. What better way to let children learn that letting them play right? A child may also feel more comfortable reading aloud to pets than friends/family members. No pressure just good listening ear which frankly, who doesn’t want that?

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So, just a few tips to go by for parents with small children, if ever you decided to have a pet at home:

  1. Never let the kids be alone with your pet unsupervised. Especially if your children is younger than 4 years old. The younger the children, the less control they have. Children under the age of three aren’t mature enough to care for a pet. Their impulsive action and high energy may scared/injured the pet, which in turn may harm them in the process. A frightened animal may scratch or bite your children.
  2. Let your pet have their own room or space where they can be free from the children, at least for a few hours per day. This is important to ensure that your pet feel comfortable in the house and stressed free. (animal can get stressed too).
  3. Teach your child to practice hygiene habit when dealing with pet and their droppings. Wash hands regularly especially after playing with the pet.
  4. Introduce your children to the pet slowly. Show your children how to pet an animal (if they can be pet of course), and tell them when not to interact with the animal. Best rule of thumb, teach your children to be kind and loving to the animal.
  5. Do not allow the pet to sleep with your children.
  6. Bring the pet to the vet for annual check up/if they’re sick and for vaccinations.

All in all, i wish you all the best with your pet and the kids. May your home be blessed with lots of love and happiness.

 

Bina masa berkualiti dengan anak tatkala anda tak ada masa?

Hatta ibu bapa bekerja mahupun ibu bapa yang berada di rumah sepenuh masa, masing-masing punya cabaran tersendiri. Nak selitkan masa untuk diri sendiri di samping nak memastikan anak-anak dapat perhatian dan kasih-sayang secukupnya. Bagaimana tu?

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acap kali, anak disogokkan dengan mainan/makanan. barangkali nak menghilangkan rasa serba-salah kerana meninggalkan anak bersama pengasuh/di sekolah. Jangan kata orang lain, saya pun adakalanya ada tendency nak buat begini. Tapi awas! Kuantiti takkanpernah dapat menandingi kualiti. Biarpun masa seketika cuma, utamakan MASA BERKUALITI, bukan hanya setakat dengan anak malah dengan pasangan juga.

ingat ya.. intimasi berlaku melalui hubungan 1 dengan 1, bukannya secara berkumpulan. 

Bagi kanak-kanak yang berumur 12 tahun ke bawah, mereka ni memandang dunia dalam konsep concrete, ataupun tetap; yang bermakna selagi mereka tak nampak/ tak dapat sentuh sesuatu, bagi mereka benda itu tidak wujud.

Jadi, ada tak cara nak wujudkan masa berkualiti tatkala anda sebenarnya tak berapa ada masa ni?

1.Aktiviti projek dengan anak-anak. 

Projek yang terbaik adalah projek yang memakan sedikit masa untuk disiapkan, a.k.a tak boleh siap in 1 sitting. Projek macam mana tu? Tak kisahlah nak buat projek taman mini ke, hias akuarium ke, scrap book ke.. apa jua yang menarik minat anda & juga minat si manja.

Kalau ada anak lebih dari 1 pulak macam mana? Study suggest anda ada lebih dari satu projek. Ye lah, minat dan cara setiap anak pun berbeza kan.. janganlah main pukul rata pulak.

2. Tandakan dalam kalendar (yang boleh dilihat anak). 

Kenapa nak kena tanda & bagi anak nampak? Konsepnya mudah sahaja.. ANTICIPATION. Perasaan tak sabar-sabar menanti sesuatu yang seronok dan menggembirakan. Macam mana anda tak sabar menanti hari Jumaat sebab esoknya cuti & boleh pergi jalan-jalan, macam tu lah juga anak-anak tak sabar-sabar nak main dengan emak ayahnya! Mungkin tak dapat buat setiap hari, selang seminggu pun boleh. Asal saja bila anda dan anak sedang beraktiviti, tumpuan anda 100% kepadanya. Jangan pula tangan dok capai telefon!

3. Lebihkan apa yang anda boleh buat BERSAMA. 

Untuk anak-anak, bila buat sesuatu BERSAMA-SAMA, barulah perhubungan dua-hala dan interaksi gaya badan berlaku. Contoh mudah, anda nak anak belajar solat, cara yang betul adalah anda dan anak sama-sama solat bersama di masjid/surau, bukannya anda hantar anak ke sana untuk solat. Contoh lain, anda beli mainan lego untuk anak anda bermain sambil ‘mengembangkan daya kreativiti’.. cara yang betul adalah anda sama-sama duduk sebelah dan main lego tu.. bukannya bukak beg, keluarkan lego dan biar anak main lego sorang-sorang..

4. Bila bercakap dengan anak, tunggu anak habis cakap dan bagi respons sepenuh hati. 

I cannot stress this enough. Perhubungan dua hala. Bagi peluang untuk anak habiskan cakap & pandang muka/mata anak. Anak-anak ni cerdik tuan-puan, mereka tahu bila anda ‘hadir’ atau tidak. Hatta bercakap dengan bayi sekalipun, tunggu cue dari anak yang menandakan mereka sedang bercakap-cakap dengan kita.. klu verbal (bunyi atau perkataan) dan juga klu non-verbal.. dahi berkerut ke.. tangan excited turun-naik ke. Bila anak tahu kita beri sepenuh perhatian kepadanya, mereka akan lebih percaya diri dan berani mencuba. Itu satu perkara penting yang perlu ada pada anak kecil!

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Ultimately, for kids, Love is FOCUSED INTEREST. 

Semoga dengan hari mendatang, kita lebih kreatif dan lebih komited menunaikan hak anak-anak kita dengan memberikan masa yang berkualiti untuk mereka.

 

Selamat menjalin hubungan bermakna dengan anak-anak!